hi lovelies and a very happy monday to you wherever you may be. today i wanted to touch on a topic that is near and dear to me: depression deals and dupes :)
as anyone who is a regular reader of the blog here knows, i have suffered from episodes of depression over the past 7 years.
it is such a difficult condition to deal with as the things you know you need to do to make you happier (developing a routine, doing things you enjoy) are things you often don’t have the energy or get up and go to actually do. so frustrating and filled with feelings of guilt and shame. all of which is such a blow to your self esteem.
it’s like a self-perpetuating circle of events. sigh.
last week i shared some of the vitamins, foods and drinks i use on a regular basis that help keep me feeling happy, contented and most of all cared for.
i have been lucky in that i am feeling better than ever lately – i can’t remember at all feeling so calm and centred at any stage. which is wonderful. i still keep on reading and exploring in case of a recurrence though, and that’s a little of what this blog post is about.
dealing with depression is such a difficult thing. every aspect of it is full of guilt and shame (because you’re not really ill are you? you don’t have a broken leg or anything). at least that’s what my depression fuelled brain tends to tell me anyway.
there is a lot of advice out there and the world and it’s wife seems happy to tell you what you should or shouldn’t do.
in life, if there’s one thing i have learned at all, it’s that there are no “should’s” or “shouldn’t’s”. we have to do what’s right for us. nobody else can be inside your mind and therefore no one can fully understand what you are going through.
i have found some interesting (and useful) ideas in two articles i read recently. so i thought i’d share them here with you lovelies too!
the first article talks about the dangers of being too positive, which seems like a strange thing to say. particularly in relation to depression. but it can be equally as damaging as the self destructive habits that tend to go hand in hand with the symptoms of depression.
let me explain further.
often we are told to visualise success, or to think positive thoughts. by doing so, we attract more positivity our way. now, i am not going to total disregard positive thinking, as personally i feel that this way of thinking has helped me over the years. but trying to force the idea of positive thinking onto people can be a debilitating thing in itself.
it can feel ridiculous to fake positivity in this way.
i would encourage people (whether depressed or not) to feel their feelings. to allow themselves to sit where they are, with the feelings they have. to not crush them down, to not hide them, to not run away from them.
talk to someone, get some help, but don’t fall into the trap of perpetual positivity. you are allowed to feel your feelings too.
another article i read was all about the possible physical connections between depression and the way we take care of ourselves. it’s part of the reason i have been careful about vitamins and foods to support me. i am fitting in some exercise too (not in a stressy way, just trying to let it be fun and let it be what it will be).
i think it is certainly true that taking better care of ourselves will undoubtedly lead to less episodes of depression and greater feelings of contentment and happiness.
taking care of yourself doesn’t have to mean a punishing exercise and beauty regime or maintaining a perfect body. it just means doing little things that make you feel better, just for you.
i’d love to know your experiences with this – feel free to let me know how you deal with your emotions and take care of yourself in the comments section. especially if you are someone who struggles with depression.
have a wonderful day lovelies!